How do you make an insecure person feel insecure? How do you bat off senseless, mindless and baseless questions? It’s sad when people want you to prove yourself even though you’ve known them forever. Or, at least it feels like it’s been forever.
Are we living a pretentious life? Sweepings things under the carpet, until it gets too late. And when you stand on such a crossroad, you don’t even realize that you just missed the last bus.
It’s easy to say “don’t let anyone else dictate your happiness”. If you actually let no one affect your moods or feelings, you are probably not human. To what extent? That’s the question.
It’s difficult to know when enough is really enough. Wish everything were black and white. Even if I read every damn psychology or philosophy book out there, nothing will ever teach me how to deal with real life situations. Besides, I’m unique. You are unique too.
Every single incident is like a crossword puzzle- the pieces are in your hands. You need to learn how to put all the pieces together.
Posted by Suda on June 23, 2009 at 4:25 am
You have messed up it all!!! Now don’t tell me to stop reading this blog too
I won’t listen 
I kinda know what you are feeling or may be I don’t know it at all. As you said, everyone is unique and I think that uniqueness comes from the way the person thinks. So being unique in our own way is the solution. There is no way you can *think* the things out. So stop thinking. And stop sulking (you are sulking, aren’t you?)
Are you unhappy in life? I don’t think so. Or are you going through a unhappy patch of life? may be. Or may be its just a small thing that happened yesterday that is bothering you. Anyway, The thing you said about missing the last bus is true but that is no reason not to walk all the way to destination, is it? It may take forever to reach there but at least its better than sitting at bus stop crying over the lost bus.
Finally, as I have finished my messed up comment and I can’t make a head or tail out of it, I leave it up to you to try finding some meaning in it.
P.S.> Are you planning to be a writer some day? I think you should write a book. Something philosophical with title: Light and Flies in Ruhi’s Life
(derived from Life and lies of Albus Dumbledore)
Posted by Dev on June 23, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Ruhi is back!!!
I think you answered your questions yourself only..and those answers are valid.
“It’s easy to say “don’t let anyone else dictate your happiness”. If you actually let no one affect your moods or feelings, you are probably not human. To what extent? That’s the question”
Exactly..you have to smart enough to decide who are those people whose words and actions impact you. And sometimes even those whom we had known for long and well, surpise us with their words and actions. Perhaps that’s the time to reevaluate those relationships.
“Even if I read every damn psychology or philosophy book out there, nothing will ever teach me how to deal with real life situations. Besides, I’m unique. You are unique too.”
Both yes and no. It’s true that every situation and person is unique, but still if you understand some core issues about life, people and yourself, it becomes easier. Lot of times, I go back in my past to understand and deal with problems in present. I feel sometimes that our problems have a repetitive quality in them, even though they come in different forms.
Posted by Amit on June 23, 2009 at 3:02 pm
People who think you are important to them won’t make you feel bad. And even if they do, you can just scream back on them and they will understand.
Its strange how people start drifting away. Till a point, you can catch hold of a piece and pull the person back but beyond a point, everything is out of reach.
To what extent? Till the extend that it becomes repetitive and time(n+1) hurts more than time(n).
Posted by Avada Kedavra on June 23, 2009 at 7:58 pm
nice post.. agree with you.. but isnt it strange that we need years together to build up trust and respect and just seconds to break it.. seconds are enough to make someone drift away from us..
Posted by Poonam on June 24, 2009 at 4:05 am
Sometimes we have to prove ourselves most to the the people whom we consider our closest people. Its hard to decide how much is enough. Listening to heart. inner voice, however unpleasant, helps. That is the only thing that has ever worked for me.
Take care! My prayers and best wishes for you.
Posted by Nita on June 24, 2009 at 5:07 am
Hey Ruhi. You are right we have to figure out each situation although it gets easier as we grow older. And the more sensitive you are the harder it is. At times a thick skin helps, at least to certain types of people.
Posted by Shefaly on June 27, 2009 at 2:08 am
Ruhi:
The only thing that works consistently is your loyalty to your own values. If you take decisions in line with your values, then decisions, whilst possibly temporarily upsetting or difficult, will in the long run won’t annoy you with their dissonance. They may also make you unpopular but over a longer period of time, people learn that it is better to trust an annoying but upright person than an always-pleasing-but-will-stab-in-the-back-when-suits-him person.
Of course, in the long run, we are all dead but on that sentiment, my question always is: But then why bother? Why not spend the intermediate time sitting around and doing nothing?
Posted by | Balu | on June 28, 2009 at 11:45 am
I suggest you ad ‘uncommentable’ as a tag for this post. Got me thinking, but no comments. I will take this to another unrelated dimension if I think further.
PS: Do blog more often =)
Posted by Ruhi on July 26, 2009 at 1:05 pm
Thanks Balu, will try.
Posted by airborne on July 15, 2009 at 2:31 pm
@ruhi: I’ll let you ponder over this in peace…btw since when did you leave ruhii.com???
Posted by Ruhi on July 26, 2009 at 1:05 pm
I didn’t renew my domain.
(Since I’m not blogging that much anyway).
Posted by Dheeraj on July 18, 2009 at 9:36 am
Maybe that is what it precisely is.
Maybe we are all pieces of a zigsaw puzzle ourselves, wandering around in the chaos that is this world, wondering where we fit in.